Our Thoughts Affect Our Lives

Over the years, I have come to see that our thoughts do affect our lives. When I’m feeling defeated and depressed I have no energy to focus on the things that will improve my situation. I mope, lie around, and feel sorry for myself –often blaming others, and yes even God, for my predicament, when I’m truth, I’m to blame. These are the times my health, my relationships, and my energy falter. Only by pulling myself out of the funk and negativity will I become empowered again.

The old adage “seek and ye shall find” remains as true as ever. If you look for proof that achieving big goals, big dreams and living a life of excitement and success is possible… you will find it.

However, if you look for proof that life is difficult, big goals are impossible to achieve and success is reserved only for a select few…you will surely find that as well.

There’s nothing more empowering than coming to the realization that you can have, do and be anything you want!

The problem for most people is they don’t believe it is possible for them.
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Change One Thing

Sometimes it seems like nothing works the way it should. If you’re a human, you have probably hit that point where work is no fun, relationship is a struggle and you don’t even feel comfortable in your body.

At times like these, changing your life can seem overwhelming. There’s so much to do…where do you even start?

It’s quite simple, really…just change ONE thing.

  • Read a magazine you wouldn’t normally consider picking up.
  • Try a new type of restaurant.
  • Take a different route to work.

Any simple change of routine can shift your perspective, and has the potential to drastically transform your life.

It’s like a ship at sea…if it changes course even one degree, 100 miles later it’s in completely new waters.

Of course, the most profound shifts are the ones you make on the inside. Annoyance can easily be turned into fascination. Frustration can be flipped to become gratitude. Even anger can be transformed if you simply turn it into a song.

You don’t have to tackle the whole enchilada, just make one simple shift.

And the best part is…it’s all experimentation. If you don’t like your new perspective, you can always go back to your old one.

What “one-degree” shift can YOU make TODAY?

Your Morning Routine

Last time, I wrote about making choices and how they affected your life. Today, I want to talk about one important choice you make every day—your morning routine.

Your morning routine sets the tone for your day. It plays a big part in how you handle the day and determines how the rest of your day will go.

How often do you jump out of the bed, get ready and dash out the door to work or rush to get the kids off to school? Then, the rest of the day you feel stressed, constantly on the go and behind schedule. Creating some quiet time in the morning, to ease into your day, will better equip you to handle any situation that comes up during the day. Starting your morning with quiet time won’t make all your troubles go away. It won’t prevent the day from trying to tackle you. It will, however, give you a better foundation and a better mindset to deal with the problems and issues that come up throughout the day.

So, how do you create a more peaceful morning?
Try getting up half an hour earlier and spent the time on quiet activities: reading the Bible, meditating, writing in a journal, etc. I’ve found that thinking about what I’m grateful for, always helps me start the day in a positive and relaxed mood. If you’re the kind of person who hits the alarm, jumps out of bed and immediately has to get everyone else awake, your morning most likely feels hectic. Just getting half an hour of quiet time to enjoy coffee or tea and get your head together can do help a lot

Nowadays, too many people start their day on Facebook, or Twitter, or other social media sites. Or they immediately turn on the T.V. To catch up on the latest news. When you start your day like this, you are allowing other people’s moods and situations dictate how your day will go. It isn’t necessary, or healthy, to start your day worrying about what your friends are doing or what bad thing happened in the world while you slept.

Spend time with yourself in the morning before grabbing your phone or sitting at the computer. You’ll be in a better place mentally and emotionally to deal with all the chaos in the world.

Take care of yourself first and your friends later. Try to create a good morning routine for yourself. Start easy and gradually add to it. Within a few weeks or months, you’ll be glad you did.

Do you have a relaxing morning routine? Tell me, how do you start your day?

The Choices You Make

Life is about choices. Each day we are faced with choices. Sometimes they are the same choices as yesterday. It doesn’t matter what you want to change in your life, you will be facing many choices on the way to your goals. Things will pop up each day, throughout the day, being prepared ahead of time will help you make the better choice.

Whatever the situation, making choices is not a one size fits all type of decision. Let’s say you’ve made the choice to lose weight. Every day you will be faced with choices that will either keep you on track or lead you astray. Will you have fruit instead of cheesecake? Will you choose vegetables instead of pasta smothered in tomato sauce? Will you choose to exercise or skip it?

So you make the better choices today, great! However you need to realize that you will be faced with the same kinds of choices again tomorrow, and the next day, and the next…and so on. Some days you may not make the better choice. Being aware that you will have to continue making daily choices can help your resolve and help you get throught the moment of decision.

If you sleep late, put off working on a project, grab a donut or flop in front of the TV instead of doing something productive, remember you made those choices. Habits can be hard to break, but it’s ultimately you who decides in each situation which choice you’re going to make. It’s you who decides whether or not you will make a choice that leads you closer to your goals or farther away from your goals.

Peer pressure can also lead you to make bad choices. We tend to think of peer pressure being exclusive to teenagers, but the truth is we are all subject to peer pressure. How many times have you gone on a diet and as soon as you get together with friends they try to coax you into having dessert? They tell you to “live it up a little, you can get back on your diet tomorrow.” It’s in those moments when we usually cave in and have the dessert. Even though it was your friends who lead you to the wrong choice in that moment, it’s still your responsibility to own up to the fact that you made the choice.

Start thinking more about the choices you make. Make the decision to make better choices each day. Also, realize that sometimes things will pop up that you aren’t prepared for. But if you make a conscious effort to always be aware of the choices you make, you can stick to making better choices, despite peer pressure or what’s going on in your life.

What choices have you made lately that were in line with your goals? How about the ones that were not helping you reach your goals?

New Toy

I bought new voice recognition software this week and spent the morning setting it up. I used to have an older version on my laptop, but no longer have the laptop.

It’s the newest version of Dragon NaturallySpeaking. I wrote about the software at Blogging Made Easy…Dragon Naturally Speaking.

I debated on getting it for my desktop, but realized how spoiled I am. I’d much rather talk, then type. As my iPhone and my Kindle Fire both have the talk-to-type feature, I decided my desktop needed it too.

Happy New Year 2015

Happy New Year! I hope 2015 turns out to be a great one for you all.

‟A new year, a new you!” We hear it every year at this time.

Truthfully, I don’t like the phrase. I’d like to suggest instead: ‟A new day, a new you!”

Why must we wait until the beginning of a new year to work on becoming a better person (lose weight, save more money, be happy, etc.)? Every morning we atre gifted with a ‟blank slate” consisting of 24 hours. Hours that we have to do, create, or act in any way we want to. Many of us sit back and let these hours slide by without notice. Why not start being more intentional in how we use them? Imagine the things we could accomplish today, and every day, without waiting for January 1 every year.

Will you join me in replacing the old, tired cliche with this new one? Maybe post it on social media, or in your emails. Let’s start a ‟revolution!”

A new day, a new you!”

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Have a Pancake Party

(NOTE) This is an article I wrote in 2010. I thought you would like to read it. When you aren’t sure what to make far a meal, pancakes are a great idea. And making a party out of them is always fun.


The butter sizzles and dances on the surface of the griddle. I watch as Momma pours the thick batter into the shape of an R, the first letter of my name. More batter, more letters; we are having a “Pancake Party.”

Occasionally, my mom and my Aunt Elna would mix up a big bowl of pancake batter, gather us kids together, and give us pancakes for supper. These weren’t ordinary, plain, round pancakes; they were unique, fancy, odd shaped pancakes.

Our imaginations ran wild as we made suggestions for shapes we wanted to see. “Make a flower.” We would say. “Can you make a boy, or a girl?” The free-formed shapes didn’t look perfect, but that didn’t matter to us. Continue reading


Occasionally, I like to take a break from writing and do something different. It might be painting—I love working with watercolors– or reading a great book. Last week, I felt that need. I think I was experiencing a “January funk’ when it came to writing. No matter how much I tried, I couldn’t get the words on the paper to make sense. After several attempts, I gave in to my muse and left her alone. To re-energize, I decided to flex a different creative muscle. I took on two projects; both were developing and publishing someone else’s book.
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